Pursuit of Happiness by Tarika Sanduja

"Your Grandmother would've been proud of you, if she were here today" This is something I often hear from my family and relatives. She passed away when I was in Grade 8 and I miss her more as I grow older because now I understand what values she imbibed in me  My Grandma was a Social Science teacher and a Principal in a Government School, and my source of inspiration & guidance. She was an angel in disguise who taught me how to care. She was a spiritual person who believed in God and treated everyone with love and respect.  She always said "You never know when you are interacting with an angel, so be kind and generous always".  Since she passed, all I have is her fond memories, her valuable lessons & our laughs and giggles.  One particular thing she asked me to take as an advice as an oxigen canister in this fast spreading virus borne world.  That was -"Don’t ever let your ice cream melt while you’re counting someone else’s sprinkles.”  I have been

Imagine, You’re sitting in a large group & you suddenly hit with a great idea.While you’re working up the nerve to voice that idea out loud,the extrovert sitting next to you blurts it out first,getting all the credit.You’re devastated & angry at yourself for not speaking up.🥺 Ever Happened? Happened with me multiple times🤷 According to Carl Jung, everyone has an intoverted & an extroverted side,with one dominant on the other🤷 Those on the more extroverted side tend to be energized by social stimulation, they value the outer world & are more apt to conform with society.Those closer to the introverted side can feel drained by too much social stimulation,so they require a certain amount of alone time to re-energise 🌼 They are not be confused with loners, or antisocial.They are simply more focussed on inner world of ideas🌈 Introverts are mostly "in their head,engaging in deep conversations, ruminating about life,& everything" & take time to reflect on

Sometimes, after an argument in which the other person was clearly at fault, do you end up feeling sad and guilty.? “Did I say too much? Was I too loud? Shit, I have hurt that person. I should call and apologize. I feel terrible now. I should text a big sorry message at least.” This is what happens with you? You are  different. Yes, you feel too much. You care too much. You worry too much. People would say you are an over thinker, you are way too kind and loving to people around you. But you know what? -  You are an idiot as well. You can't keep taking care of others without taking care of yourself. People have used you, they have said the sweet things and then left you bitter in your heart. There would have been times when you have done so much for others, but they left you with an excuse when you needed them. You have always been helping others, but you have felt helpless when you were down in life.  And it's not just you, there are a whole lot of people in this universe like